The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly
themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image, Otherwise, we love only
the reflection of ourselves we find in them. - Thomas Merton.
I compensated for my former indifference
by the twin exercise of attention and patience,
Let's call it love.
-Sylvain Tesson
from the exquisite movie The Velvet Queen
Whenever I groan within myself and think how hard it is to keep writing about love in these times of tension and strife which may at any moment become for us all a time of terror, I think to myself, “What else is the world interested in?” What else do we all want, each one of us, except to love and be loved, in our families, in our work, in all our relationships. God is Love. Love casts out fear. Even the most ardent revolutionist, seeking to change the world, to overturn the tables of the money changers, is trying to make a world where it is easier for people to love, to stand in that relationship with each other of love. We want with all our hearts to love, to be loved. –Dorothy Day, The Catholic Worker, April 1948